When you look at someone, don’t focus on that which is temporary. Focus on what is permanent.
The body and the sinful nature is temporary.
The spirit or soul is permanent.
The body and nature have little worth.
The spirit or soul is of the highest worth.
If you focus on souls, you will no longer have trouble with Love.
But if you focus on that which is temporary, Love for others will be elusive.
1 Samuel 16:7 The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.